I believe your relationship with your Counsellor is the foundation to the success of the experience you share with them. It is a relationship that should be built on trust, with clear boundaries and offer mutual respect. Choosing a Counsellor who you feel comfortable with and who you feel you can talk to makes sense.
Choosing a Counsellor can be a bit like finding good footwear. Really, stick with me on this…
You might see some shoes you like but when you try them on they don't fit and so you look for something different. Sometimes you can wear a pair of shoes for a short time and gradually they become more comfortable and may even end up being your “old faithfuls”.
If you’re really lucky then your new shoes fit and you feel comfortable in them from day one.
When you’ve found the right pair you might choose to wear them until you can’t walk any further in them and you have to go bare foot or invest in a new pair. Alternatively you might put them in the cupboard and bring them out when you need something safe and familiar that you know fits you well.
Ok, so maybe my analogy isn’t quite perfect, but then neither am I. My point is simply that choosing a Counsellor is personal to you. Consider what’s important to you. It might take a couple of sessions if you’re unsure but ultimately you will know if the Counsellor is the right one for you.